A new trend of Kundali matchmaking has been introduced. While proposing a marriage, the compatibility factor is checked not only to ensure harmony between the duo; but to confirm the tuning they share with their in-laws. With this article, let’s see the compatibility of the boy and the in-laws.
Nowadays a new trend has begun in
matchmaking of horoscopes; people try to fix the marriage with the native who will not only help her husband but also his parents. Modern matchmaking or the astrologers are not fully competent which is ultimately increasing the count of divorces. Also, it seems that god has thrown all the sinners in this century to punish them for the sins of their past life. Hence, in many cases it has become difficult to maintain stability in the family life for long.
Still, matchmaking is a must in most of the hindu homes and now it has become a trend in all the religions. Reason behind is the increasing divorce ratios in all religions. The relation of husband with the parents of the girl and vice versa is becoming an important factor in divorce. Husbands usually are ill receptive toward their in-laws and vice versa. Parda or ghoonghat has become obsolete and wishes of elders has become an object of mockery in many homes. This degradation of family values are an outcome of westernization and modernization of our Indian culture and society. As a result, people are paying its price in courtrooms. Various brainless TV shows are also the major reason for it. Television and cell phones have corrupted social values beyond imagination.
Guruji Shree KSK has written about it in his fourth reader, but he took the charts of the parents of the girl and with respect to it he has given the rule. Nowadays, no one carries so many charts with them. Therefore, I thought that there should be some logic which can be developed further by fellow astrologers to arrive at a common decision about the topic in question from the chart of the girl itself.
The seventh house is of the spouse, the 9th is of the father of the native in question and 4th of the mother. Ninth house is about luck and 5th house being 9th to 9th is another important house. After all it is luck, fate, and destiny which makes a person suffer or enjoy whatever he or she is and will go through. Luck is the final verdict of God, it cannot be changed. A good aspect or conjunction or Rashi Navamsa positions must indicate the interpersonal relations of the subject with his in-laws.
The fifth house is 9th house of ninth and seventh house is 11th house of ninth. So these houses along with other will have their say in our discussion. In my experience, I have found this dictum correct to the last word that “before time and more than destined no one gets anything”.
Life in villages is even today very peaceful and calm. Our values and culture is still alive there and this is a main reason for long life and happiness of the family members. However, slowly the cyanide of modernization is reaching there too. We can see that breakups in marriages are rampant in metros than in villages. Life is meant to be peaceful, soothing, calm and helping not fighting, quarreling, and dominating over each other. Someone will have to let go the ego so that both can remain happy and peaceful. The women folk have not suddenly become a working class but has been working even before independence, what has changed now is the viewpoint of the women and so we are witnessing the results daily in newspapers. That time women maintained their dignity and dignity of the both families. Men were also different and obeyed elders generally. Everything has changed now.
The other factor is the dasha period which changes a human according to its significations, so while for a particular time there are cordial relations between the in laws and son in law, it becomes negative later and there are reverse cases also, the main reason is the dasha which follows upon the native.
Below are four charts of females with different place of birth and time and two of them are real sisters with different natured husbands.
1) 13-11-1974, 6:15 (Ashok Nagar, M.P.)
2) 7- 02- 1973, 9:15 (Atarra, U.P.)
3) 25-11-1954, 4:30 (Hyderabad)
4) 4- 01- 1975, 9:05 (Itarsi, M.P.)
I think we must look at the connection of 5th, 7th sub lords with 9th cusp sub lord. We must also look at the strength of 5th and 9th house. See the irony here that 5th house is called Laxmi Sthaan, the house of luck of father and fourth house is called sukh sthaan. 4th house is of mother and 5th is of luck of the father of the native. 4th house is 12th to 5th house which means that god himself wanted all fathers to be devoid of luck because of mother of the native. It also means that when our parents grow old, they need sukh and luck both to remain happy. Therefore, this is the responsibility of every child whether male or female to provide it without any questions no matter what ever there horoscopes say.
1) The husband of the first chart is away and is on enemy mode for the family of the girl since the beginning. The 7th and 9th cuspal is
Saturn in sub of
Mercury. Mercury is in 12th house which is 8th to 5th house. At the time of marriage, the couple was under the maha dasha of Saturn. It clearly shows bad relations. It is also fourth house from 9th thus, negating 5th house or good relations.
2) In the second chart, the 5th cuspal sub lord is Saturn in sub of
Ketu in fourth house. The 9th cuspal sub lord is
Jupiter in sub of Saturn in 3rd house which is 11th to 5th. The native is a dedicated son-in-law and obeys them. Saturn is also the cuspal sub lord of third house.
3) In the third chart, the 5th cuspal sub lord is Mercury in sub of Saturn in first house which is 5th house to 9th. The native has a very friendly husband towards her parents since marriage. The 9th cuspal is Saturn in star and sub of Jupiter in 9th bhava; thus, becoming strong significator for 9th house. The husband is presently going through Mahadasha of Saturn and has very good relations with in-laws since beginning of the marriage.
4) The 5th cuspal sub lord is Saturn in sub of Saturn in 5th house. The girl has a very obedient husband towards her parents. The husband of the native is presently going through maha dasha of Jupiter which is in first bhava, the 5th house to 9th house. The 9th cuspal is Venus in sub of Saturn. The second cuspal is Sun in sub of Rahu in 10th bhava which is second to 9th. These are friendly bhavas and so the relations are also very good.
Thus, we see that role of 5th house is more important than 7th house when it comes to interpersonal relations of the son-in-law with the father of the girl. Readers can experiment on more charts and I am sure they will find 2, 5, 9, 11 house significations from the 9th house in action when the relations are good. Similarly, they will find 6, 8, 12 from 9th or 9th to 9th house when the relations are sour or bad.
